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‘Small problem, small reaction.’ This is a great framing.

One more act of kindness: to refrain from calling people ‘Karens.’ It isn’t kind to namecall anyone.

Better to call them (or yourself at that moment) entitled or rude.

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Thanks Susanne. I learned the "small problem, small reaction" language from my kid's school and appropriated it for our household. I am not above calling myself or others a Karen, but I take your point. It's bad to view others as walking stereotypes.

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I resonate with this so much! Kindness takes every bit of being intentional.

Every time I catch myself silently judging someone in my head, I make it a point to find one thing I like about them. It's helping me treat people kinder and with more love.

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Thanks! I like your habit of finding something nice. May need to try that ;)

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Most welcome.

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I have been reflecting on kindness and how it impacts my life and how I can indulge in more conscious kindness - towards myself and others - as we close out what feels like a very cruel year personally and politically. Thank you for this perspective. I plan to be revolutionary. 💜♾️

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“Some days it feels like a thousand spiders are trying to trap me in their webs of stress: nasty online comments, junk food, political anxiety, family drama — you name it. If I let the spiderwebs trap me, the spiders will gradually march into my soul, colonize, and turn it into rot.”

As I read this I felt the many times I’ve doom-scrolled twitter at 2 am or my cold response to my wife after an unexpressed expectation has not been met. Be kind, Brandon. Be at peace.

I appreciated the care and thoughtfulness of the piece - thank you, Jeff.

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Thanks Brandon. Those two examples hit.

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Well done, an extraordinary piece!

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Thank you!

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What a stunning essay, Jeff!

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Thank you!

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The way you asked your son for his opinion <3

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aw thanks :) it's revealing and a little scary having a kid as a mirror!

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Jeff, this is awesome, Great stuff here! Says a lot about a man who works to keep being kind. Anyone can be kind when he/she is pushing the ball downhill. Those who find kindness amidst adversity make a difference. 👊

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Thanks Matt, appreciate it

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I hope I live long enough to read George’s book!

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aw, thanks Rife

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Kindness is something I’ve always wanted to emulate and many people think that I do. We could all do better and Jeff, I think I understand you completely. You are such a great writer, I really enjoy reading your missives.

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Thanks so much Tim.

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Beautiful and moving piece. I really appreciate people who have the ability to self-reflect and be transparent with themselves and others about their shortcomings in this thing called life. Kindness is a daily requirement and task for all us to strengthen our humanity.

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Thanks so much, and I hope you're ok with me tagging you :)

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LOL! I think it would take a hippo for me to be that hypocritical.

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lolol. Working on a short Substack High rejoinder btw.

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That would be super dope! I can't wait to read it!

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This was beautiful and indeed a revolutionary concept esp post election. I’m working on a draft about the need for kindness across political ideologies and this helped me connect a few concepts for my own essay. I especially enjoyed the reference to Death of. Salesman. My peace of mind comes from practicing the virtue of being kind. I also think one might potentially connect this to the cultivation of the four virtues. Bravo!

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Thanks for the kind (pun intended) words. I look forward to reading your piece!

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What a beautiful story and amazing thing to model in front of your kid Jeff. "Being kind helps me see the beauty, grace, and kindness all around me." I feel the same embarrassment about missing the mark so often, like you say, it's a low bar. It's just a mindset to remember that kindness is just right at our fingertips in each moment, and then to take the invitation.

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Thanks Rick. You set the kind bar pretty high tbh.

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Much needed. Certainly describes a lot of my behavior, good and bad. And the last time that I lost it, it was also over what I believed to be an unwarranted credit card fee. Now to avoid those spider webs, or, as my English friends say, stay out of the nettles.

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I like that. What a great expression.

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